Review: You have to be gay to know God – Siya Khumalo, Pt 2

In one of my podcast introductions, I mentioned that our lives as LGBTQ+ people intersect with politics whether we like it or not. Siya expresses this notion in detail in his book. I will reflect on some of that in this second part of the review and other lessons I learnt.

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Review: You have to be gay to know God – Siya Khumalo, Pt 1

I am late, but it’s better than never, as the cliché usually goes. I wrote this review because I am thankful for Siya’s book. I wish I had read it in primary or high school when I was young. However, I also realise I was not in a place to receive it as I am now. Siya calls himself a social-political commentator and writes about politics, religion, and sex. His book mimics this description. I would love the review to include all parts, but space won’t allow it. So I will reflect on those aspects though politics will be minimal.

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Three Ways Non-Binary Language Advances LGBTQ+ Cause

Our world and society have often operated in binaries. These binaries have been applied to sexuality, race, and other things. For example, it is often said that there is only a male and a female. However, we continue to discover that binary language is not always helpful and is sometimes harmful. It can erase many people and things existing beyond the binaries set by our society.

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Tolerance is Not Enough, but Love is[1]

The word tolerance is a negative term in its nature. It often describes an ability or capacity to endure or tolerate something that you disagree with or something you don’t like. It is the opposite of celebrating something. Unfortunately, tolerance seems to be a default choice for many people in our pluralistic world.[2] However, should it continue to be our default place? I think we are selling ourselves short if we stick with tolerance as a default place. I argue that we should abandon tolerance for love.

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Self-awareness: A Reason for Changing my Gender Pronouns and Gender Identity

In August 2022, an American singer, Demi Lovato, made news when she decided to update her gender pronouns.[1] This update came after she used they/them pronouns for a year. After reading one article about gender fluidity in support of Demi, I started pondering my gender pronouns.[2] So after self-reflection, I concluded that I should also change my gender pronouns and gender identity. The change comes from self-awareness of my gender experience.

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Social Media Sells a Romanticized Image of Gay Experience, Pt 2

In part one of this article, I discussed how social media sells a romanticized image of the gay experience in South Africa.[1] I argued that social media posts suggest that one should live fancy to be a “proper” gay.[2] However, I want to highlight a life rarely shown on social media in part 2. It’s a life gay people live as well. It is life faced with hustling, homelessness, inadequate healthcare, and unemployment, among other things.

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Social Media Sells a Romanticized Image of a Gay Experience, Pt1

I have joined different social media platforms this year after resuming writing for my blog. I have also been able to follow different people who belong to the LGBTQIA+ community and those affirming the community. As a result, I have been blessed, challenged, and encouraged by different posts I have come across. However, I have been intrigued by a romanticized image of a gay experience I noticed.[1] It suggests that being a “proper” gay means being middle-class to an upper-class person with a partner, a pet, or child, eating well, dressing well, and travelling, among other things.

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Wins and Woes of Coming out: My personal experience

Coming out is one of the critical events and steps for a person belonging to the LGBTQIA+ community. It is crucial because it usually marks a turning point in the life of queer folk. It is a moment when one accepts their sexuality and/or a moment when they finally share it with other people. It can be people in their close circles or with the public. However, while it is an outstanding achievement because it takes courage to come out, it is usually a beginning. The reason is that coming out is not a once-off event, and life continues after coming out.

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LGBTQIA+ Allies: The Least Mentioned Yet Not Least Important

Allies are the least mentioned people, yet they play a crucial role in the striving of LGBTQIA+ people. When we say the acronym for LGBTQIA+ people, we hardly reach A, which includes Allies and Asexual people. Sometimes, the short acronym is said for convenience – LGBTQ+ people, and some prefer the generic term gay. Either way, it demonstrates that allies are not always mentioned when discussing LGBTQIA+ people. However, as I have mentioned, their role is crucial. The crucial role the Allies play in the LBGTQIA+ community, being part of it, is not something I have only heard from others. I have also experienced it. However, a definition might be helpful before I speak about the experience.

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Comforted by Jesus in a Strange Place

It’s been a week since my granny passed away, and it’s been an eye-opening experience. My granny was unwell for a while, so I knew she would die someday. Sometimes, I wished that God would grant her rest because it was painful to see her suffering. However, I did not know how her death would affect me. I have been struck. It’s been hard to believe that she passed away, though I was with her for a couple of hours after she passed as I tried to ensure that she was indeed gone. So this taught me to be cautious about desiring someone to die because of their suffering. You don’t know how death will affect you.

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